Authenticity is NOT about being Yourself
Aug 20, 2025𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.
Who we describe ourselves to be, our personality, was developed a long time ago as a reaction to the early impactful events of our lives.
For example, I developed a Conflict Avoidant personality because when my parents argued I would run away into my room or to the playground. I learned to run away from conflict.
Unknowingly we develop patterns of behaviours which we call our personality and these are often a reaction to the pain experiences we have all gone through.
With little or no awareness or tools, that was my best known response at that time.
When we don't analyse our traits and behaviours and we don't change them they automatically become part of what we call our personality.
𝐒𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐝 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐥𝐲 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲.
When we are in a leadership position, many times our 'adapted personality' does not fit the requirements of great leadership.
Authenticity then requires us to :
> Do deep self analysis (best done with a coach or a mentor because we cannot see ourselves)
> Identify our behavioural patterns that are not consistent with great leadership
> Identify the root cause, beliefs and mindset that drives our behaviours
> Develop our Emotionality
> Transform our Behaviours
𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐥'𝐬 𝐏𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞.
Our purpose here is to:
> Grow
> To not live our whole lives by our original responses to situations long agon when we did not know better
> To change
> To act in alignment
Love to hear your thoughts.
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